This is not IT

I keep witnessing over and over… people confusing chemistry or “it” w/ the excitement of “new” or other people’s drama. Escaping reality may start out fun but ultimately… it is not the same as seeing and truly being seen. The difference…. One is still passively letting life “happen” to you, (aka sabotaging yourself and the goodness created), so in a way avoiding facing yourself and blocking your growth. The other pushes a person to be fully present, trust the process, learn to let the discomfort flow through you to come out stronger on the other side. Probably the best thing I learned to deal with discomfort, anger, confusion, panic attacks is just let it flow through my body until it’s subsided, no matter how uncomfortable it is. I could run and push down these feelings a thousand other ways, but they’ve always nearly killed me and destroyed everything I love. And it just comes back even stronger. To illustrate this method… please refer to and enjoy this picture of emperor Palpetine…

Principles: Love & Compassion

These two principles will be a multi part saga I’m sure! I’ve been doing a lot of pre-work before EMDR sessions and putting my journals to good use. It’s crazy to really sit and unpack what I think “love” actually is. Have you ever tried?

New Topic! Life principles…

Hey everyone! I’m adding a new sub-topic of the blog, “Principles.” I’ll take one topic each post, from daily living or life principles and try to unpack my understanding of it. These will obviously be shaped by my own experiences and life events, so please share yours!

Principles: Lying, Omission, Half-Truths

I don’t believe it is 100% possible to be 100% truthful 100% of the time. So many of us strive to be close, maybe 99.99999999999999999999999999% of the time. Who hasn’t been filled with glee when they accidentally jam a parking meter? I know this can’t be just me. But I’ve also returned money, spoke up when I was undercharged or stepped on someones toes, etc. However, $1.25 meter grievances are not what we’re talking about here.

I believe that lies and deceit commit two key injustices: Continue reading